MiConfession

(Original Message sent to my “Grownies” on 08/18/19)

Grownies are Grown Children who no Longer need/want/require “Mommy/Daddy Dearest” to share their opinions about what they are doing and/or not doing with their life. Grownies generally want “Mommy/Daddy Dearest” to be sounding boards, good listeners who ‘grin and bear’ it while keeping their commentary and their opinions to themselves, unless they are requested. Letting my Grownies be grown is a huge emotional and mental adjustment.

Most of us believe that our Grownies are more than capable of handling their own grown-folk situations, but it’s hard to ignore the parental ties that bind us to the heartstrings of our Grownies. While we want to rescue our Grownies from life’s overwhelming circumstances, we must accept that our roles have changed and that their ‘turning’ to us at 25, 30 or 40 is different from their ‘turning’ to us when they were 5, 10 or 20.

When Grownies turn to us, I believe it is so important that we encourage them and help when them when asked. Reminding ourselves and them that no matter what they are going through that they must ALWAYS, AWAYS, ALWAYS speak God’s Word over themselves and over their situation as they search for their answers.

I am grateful to be alive to be able to remind my Grownies to pray for discernment and listen for God’s voice. (John 10:27, 5)

I remind them that more often than not that their mind/heart may deceive them and cause them to forget that the thoughts and intents of their heart are often unreliable, or not even their own. I remind them that they have an enemy, the devil, who constantly seeks to destroy them by implanting hideous, terrifying words of destruction in their spirit. I remind them that he whispers to their psyche, (e.g., “you are so stupid”; you are ridiculous, how could you fall for that; ‘you are so weak, kill yourself’; ‘you have no friends because you are a terrible person – and you wonder why nobody calls you, cares about you or likes you…’, etc. ). I remind them that the devil is attempting to convince them that those crazy, hate-filled thoughts are products of their own imaginations instead of darts he launched for their destruction.

I have promised my children that I will remember that they are Grownies now. But whenever either of my Grownies grant me the blessed opportunity to share my Hope with them, then I joyously remind them that they are children of the Most High God. I encourage them to believe what God says about them, declaring His Words over their lives so that they may reject and escape from the fiery darts sent for their demise. (Psalm 23, Jeremiah 17:9, John 10: 10 – 29, Ephesians 2:2, II Corinthians 10:5, John 8:12)

What a privilege to be able to remind my Grownies that they are: blessed and highly favored, fearfully and wonderfully made, more than conquerors, hidden in Christ, that old things are passed away and all things are become new and that God says that they are forgiven and that He will never leave them. 

How wonderful it is to be able to remind my Growines that God says that though weapons will be formed against them that the weapons shall not prosper. Even in death they are conquerors BECAUSE Jesus was victorious over death and has the key to eternal life. (Revelation 1:18)

Isn’t it a blessing to know that God says our Grownies are seated together with Jesus in heavenly places? AND that God says that nothing can snatch them from His hands, nothing can separate them from the love of God in Christ Jesus. (Ephesians 2:6, :8 – 9, John 10:28, Romans 8:35 – 39)

God says Mercy and Grace shall follow our Grownies all of the days of their lives – and that in the next life, they will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. How reassuring that knowledge is to us, as we let them find their own way. (Psalm 23:6, John 14:3)

God is WONDERFUL isn’t he? His plans for them shall come to pass. We KNOW that our Grownies’ names are written in His Book. (Jeremiah 29:11, Luke 10:20)

We are reassured that as we release them into God’s hands, that though the devil may attack them that he will never void the plans and purposes of God in their lives. We are encouraged that no matter what is going on around them, that we will not fear for them as the one Who holds them has plans for them. We are blessed indeed. (Psalm 91:7 – 16, Acts 2:39).

I love my Grownies. I trust that Jesus loves them more.